SEX LOVE & INTIMACY HEALING
A 3-Month Mastermind for Gay Men
Create the connection, communication, intimacy, sex and love you truly desire
Gay Men
Do You Want Something More?
Imagine this…
Instead of the same old cycle of swiping, messaging, pic swaps and ghosting, you actually knew how to create conversations that get you closer to what you really want faster and more effectively.
Rather than hook ups that leave you feeling dissatisfied, frustrated and empty you could have sex that felt truly intimate, passionate, sensual and horny and hot all at the same time. What if you didn’t have to choose?
Rather than hide your kinks and sexual fantatisies behind closed doors you brought them into the light to discover the wisdom they have hiding in thier core to help you heal. And what if you could use those fantasies with other men to explore and journey together in a way that feels powerful and transformative?
And if you’ve contemplated the limited relationship possibilities that box you into traditional dating frameworks, imagine exploring the full spectrum of connection; intimate, sensual, kinky (if that’s what you want), loving, romantic as platonic. All honoured as valid and meaningful, neither taking precedent over the other.
Learn how to communicate in ways that are honest, vulnerable and deeply authentic resulting in deeper connection, more trust and surredner into your relationship whether it’s just sexual, open, poly or a monogamous dynamic.
Welcome to
SEX LOVE & INTIMACY HEALING
The Group Mastermind
I hear you! I’ve heard the call! I’m here with what I think is the answer my friend…
In a gay world where disconnection, lack of empathy, and not saying what you really think and feel leads the way, dating, love, sex and intimacy can feel impossible, and at worst depressing.
In the SLI Mastermind you’re invited to dive deep into yourself to uncover what holds you back from manifesting and cultivating the sex, love and intimacy you really dream of.
A place to truly heal together.
a 3-month program over Zoom, with gay men from all over the world, ready to show up and lead the way in being their true selves and create the realtionships and connections they want.
It’s also about re-educating (or re-edu-GAY-ting as I call it!) ourselves and learning new skills to take into the world. Whether it’s a loving relationship you want, cosmic transcendetnal sex with multiple or just one partner, or whether you just want to learn how to date, communicate and date on a deeper level, this is the place to do it.
Slow Dating+ is a 3-month sanctuary where hearts open, minds meet and you learn how to genuinely create the love, intomacy and sex life you want.
Hi, I’m Gary Albert…
For my entire adult life I struggled to find my place in the gay community. I never felt accepted by the tribe. And more importantly I found it hard to accept them.
Mostly, this has been down to feeling different. To being sensitive. To being someone who thinks and feels deeply. And these days I just don’t enjoy clubs, bars, booze and even tho I’m on the apps, they do my f’ing head in. And I have an allergy to surface level connection. This has created a lot of challenges in dating, sex and love. Added to that, my relationship goals do not necessarily always fit into the traditional mould.
I need more. I need something deeper, more honest, more raw and real. And I’ve struggled to find these qualities in the gay ‘community’.
The more gay men I speak to, I’m hearing that you all feel the same too. We are ready for something new, something different, something that aligns with who we really are.
So I decided to do something about it! They say ‘create the thing you want to see in the world’.
First came Pleasure Medicine, my connection workshop and ecstatic dance for gay men that happens every 2 weeks in East London.
And now, a big gay drum roll please…
Slow Dating+ for gay men who are ready to meet without the masks.
What to Expect at Slow Dating+
ARRIVAL & INTRO
Settle into the space, meet your facilitator, light introductions and ice breakers.
‘Mask Melter’ Connection Exercises
Something playful to ease nerves and bring everyone into the moment and create and equal common ground.
Guided Group Activites
Rotating group chats with prompts that go beyond small talk. Interesting and creative topics that support you to feel seen at a deeper level and to see others.
Short Live Music Performances
Live musicians give something deeper and more meaningful to give focus and spark conversation. A live ambient DJ spins an underscore to the games and exercises.
Creative Games
Simple, fun games in groups to spark laughter, create ease and ignite curiosity. In play we tend to let our masks fall away and show a lighter more honest part of ourselves.
Reflective Practices
Visualisation, journalling and inner visioning around what you really want and desire. Not just in relationhip but in your life in general as a gay man — dreams, goals, wishes, wants and desires.
1:1 Time With Men
Moments in pairs to connect around themes of gay life, desire, intimacy and friendship. A chance to share deeper aspects of yourself. Not too short but not too long either. The perfect amount of time to feel someone’s energy beyond surface level chat.
Embodiment Practice
Gentle exercise to loosen up and move your body. And don’t worry. Everything is guided. You won’t be putting on a dance performance! LOL!
Closing Circle
Reflections, appreciations and space to acknowledge the the things you’ve learned.
Optional Hang-Out
Time after to mingle, keep chatting and getting to know each other informally.
All this is carefully curated to support you in getting to know yourself and each other in a way that is light, gentle and effortless, but also deep and engaging — let judgement fall away and curiosity lead.
You’ll learn micro skills to take into your life that will support you to connect more deeply to men you meet out and about. You’ll develop more confidence in your dating and intimate life. You’ll be so glad you came to Slow Dating+ even if you don’t mee ‘the one’ (or two or three… LOL!)
And you’ll become part of a growing community rooted in care, kindness and connection.
The Slow Dating+ Solution
Slow Dating+ is a transformative, fun and joyful half-day experience that honors the sacred art of getting to know gay men more deeply and fully; mind, body, heart, soul and spirit. Drawing from the principles of the original Pleasure Medicine workshop and ecstatic dance for gay men, we create a safe, conscious container for authentic human connection to unfold naturally. We learn through our original essence… play.
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Connection Games
Games and exercises that bypass the small talk and invite you into meaningful dialogue, playful interaction and genuine discovery of each other. Everything is facilitated and guided step-by-step — so if you’re nervous, we got you!
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Embodiment
Embodied expression through movement that allows your fuller self to be seen and felt without the words. Moving beyond mental connection into somatic resonance and playful joy with a live DJ set. It’s all very simple and straight forward and guided, so no nerves necessary.
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Live Music
Nothing creates connection and a vibe like live music. Peppered with mini-performances that give you a focus, something to discuss and a magical heart-opening ambiance offering a focul and connection point.
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Conscious Container
A beautifully held space by a facilitator with over a decade of experience as a therapist, embodiment worker and somatic intimacy coach. Vulnerability is held and honored, boundaries are respected and every form of connection is celebrated — romantic, platonic and creative…
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Guided Sessions
Gentle journeys through visualisation, journalling and inner visioning that help you connect with your desires and intentions, creating clarity about what you seek in relationships, connections and life as a gay man in general! Then chances to share in small groups.
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Meet Without The Masks
The whole experience is designed to gently let the masks we wear slip away. To let ourselves be seen in more truth and authenticity. To allow connection and bonds to form naturally. And to allow yourself to be surprised as you get to know others in new and unique ways.
