EROTIC EVOLUTION
HAVE BETTER SEX
MASTER EROTIC ENERGY
STOP ADDICTIVE HABITS
For gay men ready to heal shame, awaken embodied pleasure, and experience the cosmic, connected sex you desire
You crave connection…
…but you’re stuck in a loop:
porn, apps, masturbation, performative sex, repeat…
Or maybe you’re not having sex at all. You’ve shut down. Gone numb. Checked out.
And when sex does happen?
It feels flat, disconnected, missing the depth, passion and intimacy your body knows is possible.
Your true erotic self has been buried under years of shame, conditioning and habitual patterns.
IT’S TIME TO UNF*CK YOUR SEX LIFE
Let’s rewire it for pleasure, power and potency…
Hi, I’m Gary
Therapist & Somatic Sex Coach
If you're seeking freedom from a limited, compulsive or addictive relationship with sex, you’re in the right place!
I’ve lived it. And I’ve healed through it.
For most of my adult gay life, I had a chaotic and painful relationship with my sexual energy. Tangled in cycles of porn, apps, anonymous sex, validation highs and the crushing lows that always followed.
I spent hours, days and weeks on end draining my life force on Grindr, in cruise clubs or lost in porn and masturbation spirals. I was addicted to chasing the next hit, conquest and win — the next moment where I felt wanted, and then instantly worthless.
Until it all came crashing down…
One day, I just burst into tears with a friend depleted, ashamed, deeply fatigued and finally done.
I admitted I had a serious problem. I couldn’t keep living like this. My mental, emotional and physical health were on the line. Something had to change…
And so began man sexual awakening…
Here’s what I learned — the hard way, so you don’t have to…
I discovered that deep down, I was a powerful, sexually alive, sensitive man — and so are you! But I had never been taught how to honour my erotic energy. How to channel it. How to listen to it.
I was acting out trauma and playing out patterns passed down through gay shame and queer cultural conditioning where sex equals worth, performance equals love and real intimacy equals danger.
My healing journey included:
Mindful masturbation that reconnected me to my body and sexual power
Taoist Erotic Energy practices such as breath work, sound and movement
Deep nervous system regulation
Hypnotic rewiring of my sexual subconscious
Facing and learning from my fantasies, kinks and desires — working with porn as a portal for learning
That’s when everything started to shift.
I realised sex wasn’t an addiction or a problem to fix.
It was my power and potency to remember.
When you reclaim your sexual energy and erotic power everything changes.
You attract more aligned partners. Sex becomes transcendent, intimate, passionate, playful, raw, cosmic.
You become the source of your own erotic wholeness.
This is what I now help other gay men embody and live through The Erotic Evolution Program.
THE EROTIC EVOLUTION
HEALING METHOD
A 3-phase 1:1 journey with me into deep sexual healing, erotic empowerment and embodied freedom.
Each phase works with a different layer of your erotic self:
SEXUAL SUBCONSCIOUS
Using a rapid, subconscious reprogramming process called Rapid Transformational Hypnotherapy, we dive deep into the parts of you that hold back your full sexual expression:
Heal internalised shame, guilt and trauma from growing up gay or queer in a world that distorted your erotic truth
Break the cycles of addiction, compulsion or avoidance around sex, porn, apps, masturbation and hookup culture
Unlock your authentic desires and feel safe to ask for what you want in sex and intimacy
Become confident and grounded in your turn-on rather than driven by it. Not ashamed of it, but aligned with it
Your sexual power is already inside you. This phase helps you reclaim and unlock it from the subconscious blocks holding it hostage.
SEXUAL SOMATICS
Psychological and emotional work alone won’t do the job. Your body and your nervous system must feel safe to feel again, to open and to express.
This phase brings you back into your body, where true sexual transformation happens:
A powerful, mindful masturbation practice that will rewire your patterns and shake up your wanking world
Learn to work with porn consciously as a source of pleasure, learning and nourishment, not depletion
Taoist Erotic Energy Practices: breath, sound, movement and intuition to heighten intensity, connection and pleasure either solo or with partners
Regulate your nervous system so your body becomes a safe place to feel, receive, and open to new levels of sex and erotic experience
You no longer need to perform or pretend to be powerful. This phase teaches your body how to trust and enjoy your erotic energy again fully, deeply and completely.
EROTIC REWIRING
This is where we go deeper into the truth beneath the fantasy. We ask what truly turns you on? Where do your desires, kinks or fantasies come from? And what are they trying to teach you?
Together we explore your erotic psyche not as a shame filled problem to fix, but a portal to healing, creativity and expansion.
Reclaim your fantasies as sacred guides, not shameful secrets
Use your erotic imagination to source power, not sabotage
Learn to communicate what you need and actually receive it
Understand others’ desires with compassion and presence and give it to them
This is where the full erotic integration happens. You become erotically whole turned on, tuned in and totally at home in your sensual, sexual self.
Now, you could totally figure this all out on your own like I tried to…
Similar to how I did it, you could keep reading the books, going to sex-positive workshops, try deleting all the apps (again!), or spend hours spiralling through TikTok and IG looking for answers.
And all that is fine! Please read the books and go to the workshops! All good stuff. But you might be feeling like it’s not enough…
Because this isn’t just about knowing more, or filling your mind with more knowledge. It’s about being truly seen, held and guided by an expert, as you unravel these deep, complex layers.
So, imagine having me by your side every step of the way.
A therapist, somatic coach and guide as well as a fellow erotic explorer who’s walked this exact path. Someone who knows the terrain of addiction, shame, craving, numbness… and the ecstatic erotic power that lies beyond it.
I’ll help you move through the hard parts with compassion. I’ll urge you forward into your pleasure, your truth and your power. I’ll guide you through your Erotic Evolution…
The Programs
3 Months - Erotic Reset
Reset, rebalance and reconfigure your erotic energy through relearning what sex is for you and your habits.
1/2 Year - Erotic Mastery
Start to master your erotic energy through deep energy practices, full accountability and deeper trauma healing.
Full Year - Erotic Evolution
Full mentorship by your side every step of the way as you step into a life changing erotic evolution.
What’s Included
𖤓Your Erotic Healing Container𖤓
My 1:1 programs are designed to help you rewire your relationship with sex, pleasure and erotic power from the inside out.
This is not surface-level coaching, tips and tricks that you can find on the internet.
It’s deep, layered, profound, sexual healing through mind, body and energy.
Here’s what’s included:
𖤓Hypnotherapy + Erotic Rewiring Sessions (75 mins each)
Held via Zoom or in person, and custom-tailored to your unique erotic blueprint.
These sessions use subconscious reprogramming, therapeutic coaching and guided healing to address:
Sexual shame and trauma
Porn and sex addiction
Erotic confidence and desire blocks
Nervous system patterns
Self-pleasure disconnection
𖤓Custom Erotic Hypnosis Audio Recordings
You’ll receive bespoke erotic hypnosis recordings created just for you to turn you on, rewire your sexual beliefs, liberate desire and awaken full-body confidence.
Designed to listen to while masturbating, self-touching, relaxing or drifting off to sleep.
𖤓Personalised Embodiment + Pleasure Rituals
No generic advice found on Google. These are curated sacred self-pleasure and sex practices that we create together for you to use in your personal life including:
Mindful masturbation and pleasure mapping
Taoist Erotic breath, sound and movement tools
Nervous system erotic regulation
Sex Energy Rituals to honour your erotic sel
𖤓Between-Session Integration Support
Unlimited voice note and message support between sessions via Voxer or WhatsApp.
You’re not alone in between sessions. Bring your insights, breakthroughs, inspirations, wins, urges, triggers, and questions here to me for anytime coaching.
𖤓Partner Sessions & Fantasy Mapping
If desired, we can include a partner communication and connection session with a guided kink and fantasy exploration map. Designed to help you navigate your erotic desires with less shame and more sovereignty with another person
Ready to Begin Your Erotic Evolution?
You don’t have to stay stuck in these frustrating, depressing, exhausting loops.
You don’t have to keep shrinking your sexual power.
You deserve to feel alive, connected, turned on and in touch with your body, your pleasure and your sexual truth.
If your whole system is saying yes to this, trust it.
Apply now to begin your Erotic Evolution