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For GBTQ+ Men In London
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Pleasure Medicine
A connection workshop & Ecstatic Dance for gbtq+ men in London.
Experience connection, community, kindness & kindred spirits in a safe, sober space for self expression. Fun, joy, delight & playfulness!
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Connection Lab
Meet men without the masks & practice the art of being yourself.
A relaxed lounge style evening of playful games, practics & exercises to foster connection & togetherness with other gay men…
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Our Whatsapp Group
Join our growing Pleaure Fam of over 250 gbtq+ men.
A supportive soulful community for connection, social gatherings as well as first access to new events, early bird discounts & offers…
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Slow Dating+
A brand new conscious dating event/workshop where you learn to to date, relate & communicate with other gay men.
Build confidence & learn to connect more aithentically off the apps!
What Is Pleasure Medicine?
A New Event in London For Gay Men
Pleasure Medicine is not your average gay event. It’s a connection workshop and conscious dance space where gay, bi, queer and trans men come together to reconnect with their innate joy, aliveness, radiance and desire to cultivate community.
You walk into Pleasure Medicine and you feel instantly safe, at home and accepted. No need to try to fit in…
Because you already belong.
Here there is no judgment, comparison or pressure to perform. With us, you let the masks gently melt away and the walls come down.
And in their place there is warmth, laughter, fabulous music, embodied sober conscious dance, and a community of GBTQ+ men who all want the same thing — friendship, freedom, family and belonging.
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Our Values
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Kindness
The heart of Pleasure Medicine is kindness, care and respect for all. No matter your age, body type or background you will feel that you belong here.
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Community
Pleasure Medicine is a real community; gay men that care for each other, look out for each other, celebrate each other and encourage one another to flourish and thrive.
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Belonging
Gone are the days where you try your best to fit in — not feeling good enough, feeling too much, trying to match up. At Pleasure Medicine you show up as you are, however that is, and you belong.
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Self Expression
Masculine, feminine, neither, introvert, extrovert, confident, nervous, akward fabulous, vulnerable, cunty — it’s all welome here. Be yourself.
Who Is It For?
Pleasure Medicine is a gay Ecstatic Dance and Conscious Dance in London. It’s for all bodies, the beautiful, multifaceted variety of us gay men…
It is a revolutionary and radical space for gay men who are:
Feeling disconnected from the gay scene and the world of apps and surface-level interactions
Tired of the endless swiping, ghosting and performative masculinity
Craving something deeper, more authentic and aligned with who you really are.
Ready to move on the whole "I’m too much" or "I’m not enough" narratives. This is a space of full acceptance and belonging.
You want to be seen, held and accepted among other gay men without the pressure of sexual performance or expectation. Just pure, embodied human connection and fun!
Curious about embodiment, somatic healing and free uninhibited movement through Ecstatic Dance. You’re interested in exploring how movement, dance and conscious touch can unlock joy, delight and pleasure in your body…
What Happens?
𖤓 Opening Circle
We begin together by grounding, breathing and setting the tone for openness, safety, respect and care. This is where we build the safety that allows real freedom to flourish. And you set your intentions.
𖤓 Connection
Every Pleasure Medicine begins with an hour of playful, heart-opening connection games that melt the awkwardness and spark real, human connection. You’ll meet everyone in ways that feel easy, deep, and natural — no performing, no pretending. Just you, finally able to exhale and be yourself.
𖤓 The Dance
A 90-minute sober dance experience with a live DJ playing a wave of ambient, tribal, disco, soul and deep house. No choreography to learn. It’s you, your unique expression, the music and your new Pleasure Pals for the afternoon. All bodies, ages and backgrounds come to Pleasure Medicine. This is a space of love and inclusion for all GBTQ+ men. If you’re even thinking “is this for me?” it’s probably a yes.
𖤓 The Closing Circle
We integrate, reflect and relax into gentle sharing (if you’re called) and conversation. For many men, this is where the the beginning of new friendships, chosen family and a deeper sense of belonging happens.
𖤓 Optional Social Hangout
We have time to hangout, connect and get social afterwards. Some guys find a local venue to get to know each other and carry on the conversation. This is where the community builds and connection is formed even more deeply.
Your Facilitator
Gary is an award-winning music maker and performer, conscious DJ, writer and creator of Pleasure Medicine, a bi-weekly Ecstatic Dance for gay men that involves sensual connection and conscious dance in Hackney, East London.
With over a decade of experience as a therapist, and currently training as a Somatic Sexologist, Gary is devoted to helping gay men unlock their pleasure centres, soften shame and rediscover joy, intimacy and sensuality through embodied dance and celebratory sexuality.
Gary is a columnist for queer culture magazine QX Magazine and writes personal story and opinion pieces as well as cultural analysis all from the perspective of being in the waters with the reader, trying to work it all out…